D-Groups

A D-Group is a gender-specific closed group of 3 to 5 believers (including the leader) who meet together weekly for the purpose of accelerated spiritual transformation. A person joins the D-Group by invitation only.

While Life Groups (One-on-Some) exist for the purposes of community growth and fellowship, they have an underlying additional purpose (or they should have): evangelism. Life Groups are designed to reach lost people by getting them involved in the group. A D-Group, on the other hand, consists of believers who desire a deeper walk with Christ. It is not evangelistic in its form or function, but in its fruit: It makes disciples who will then go on to make more disciples.

The format of a D-Group is not one of a teacher-student, but of a round table discussion.

In their book, The Invested Life, Joel Rosenberg and T.E. Koshy suggest that a discipleship relationship is "more personal, more practical, and more powerful. A teacher shares information, while a discipler shares life; a teacher aims for the head, while a discipler measures faith; a teacher is an authority, while a discipler is a servant; and a teacher says, 'Listen to me,' while a discipler says, 'Follow me.'"

This blueprint, sketched by Jesus Christ through His personal example, is how discipleship is accomplished in the lives of believers, and, ultimately, within the local church. When this plan is followed, those involved will participate in three dynamics that will result in growth in their personal lives, as well as in the Kingdom: community, accountability, and multiplication.
Making Disciples: A Command to Obey As believers in Christ, we have been commanded to "Go therefore, and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe everything I have commanded you. And remember, I am with you always to the end of the age." (Matthew 28:19-20)

Making Disciples: A Work to Do God didn't just save us "from" something; He saved us "for" something. Paul wrote that we are His "workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared ahead of time for us to do" (Ephesians 2:10). When we make discipls, we fulfill the purpose for which we were created and accomplish the good work God has planned for us to do.

Making Disciples: A World to Reach Malachi 1:11a says, "My name will be great among the nations, from the rising of the sun to its setting." A prerequisite to jesus' return is that His disciples will share the Gospel with all the peoples of the world (Mark 13:10). We are to make Him known to all nations and this is best accomplished by making disciples who will make disciples (2 Timothy 2:2).

Making Disciples: A Lifestyle to Model Jesus prayed for those who would be "with Him" and spent more time developing the twelve than He spent with the crowds (Mark 3:14). Jesus didn't tell His followers to make disciples; He modeled discipleship for them. If devoting His life to the development of a few was important to Jesus, then it should be important to us! Jesus said, "My Father is glorified by this, that you produce much fruit and prove to be my disciples" (John 15:5).

Jesus came so that we might have abundant life (John 10:10). A part of the abundant life is the joy of sharing the love of Jesus with others and helping them to become fully devoted followers of Christ.

How to Start a D-Group

(Luke 6:12-16)
  1. Pray about who God would have you ask to be in your D-Group.
  2. Approach those individuals and invite them into your D-Group.
  3. Covenant with them to be committed and accountable to each other.
  4. Invest your life into your D-Group participants for the next 12-18 months.



How Do I Find a D-Group?
The D-Group is a key step on the Discipleship journey.

One-on-Many (Worship Gathering) -> One-on-Some (Life Group) -> One-on-One (D-Group)

D-Groups flow out of Life Groups. Life Groups, which form out of the Worship Gathering, are the "fishing ponds" for D-Groups. As people form friendships and bonds in Life Groups, handfuls of them will decide to take the next step and begin a discipleship journey together in a D-Group.


How Do I Lead a D-Group?
The only absolute requirement for leading a D-Group is that you be intentionally pursuing Christ. You do not need to be a master teacher or have all of the answers; you do not need to be able to say, "Listen to me." If you can say, "Follow me, I'm pursuing Christ," you have the tools you need to lead a D-Group. You are not lecturing students; you are cultivating an intimate, accountable relationship with a few close friends.


How Do I Choose D-Group Members?
The first step in establishing a formal disciple-making relationship is choosing disciples. Jesus, our example in selecting disciples, spent time in prayer before selecting them (Luke 6:12-16). The word disciples means "learner." Begin by asking God to send you a group of men or women who have a desire to learn and grow.

When people approached Jesus about becoming His disciples, our Lord held a high standard. One man said, "I'll follow you, but let me go bury my father." Now, then man's father had not yet died-the man was reaching for an excuse to postpone the kind of commitment that Jesus expected of him. Jesus responded with something that the man would have understood to mean, "You can't do that. The kingdom is too important."

Your D-Group should consist of F.A.I.T.H. believers: Faithful, Available, Intentional, Teachable, and Humble. A faithful person is dedicated, trustworthy, and committed. Consider a potential disciple's faithfulness by observing other areas of his/her spiritual life, such as church attendance, small group involvement, or service in the church. Faithfulness is determined by a commitment to spiritual things.

Discern an individual's availability and intentionality by his willingness to meet with and invest in others. Does this person carve out time to listen, study, and learn from others? Is he accessible when called upon? Does she have a regular quiet time with God of reading the Word and praying? Availability is measured by a willingness to serve God. A teachable person has a desire to learn and apply what is taught. One who is teachable is open to correction. Recognize teach-ability by observing one's response to God's Word. A teachable person not only listens to what is taught but also applies it to his or her life and this presents the need for humility.

After discerning that an individual is faithful, available, intentional, teachable, and humble, prayerfully approach him or her and ask, "Would you be interested in studying the Bible, memorizing Scripture, and praying together?" Many people are open to that. All you have to do is ask. We don't recommend that you say, "Would you like for me to disciple you?" as this question may come across in a derogatory manner. Keep in mind that men should disciple men, and women should disciple women.


How Many People Should Be in the Group?
Because accountability works well in a smaller setting, the ideal size of a disciple-making group is 3 to 5 - you and 2 to 4 other people. We recommend that you do not have more than 5, and remember that just two people meeting together is not ideal.


Where Should We Meet?
Find a meeting place that suits the needs of the group. Restaurants, coffee shops, bookstores, diners, and homes are all good options. Something to consider - meeting outside the church in the community encourages your group's members to publicize their faith, teaching them it is okay to read the Bible at a restaurant or pray in public. Be sure to select a place that is convenient to all group members.


How Often Should We Meet?
Ideally, you should meet once a week for about an hour to an hour and a half. You can meet more frequently, but it is important that you meet at least once a week. This schedule does not prohibit those you are discipling from calling you throughout the week or coming by for counsel when needed. It is important to remember that discipleship is about the relationship between you and your group members, not about checking a requirement box. Disciple-making is a way of life, not a program.


Is There an Attendance Requirement?
Yes, and it is not negotiable. Since we're going to spend our lives together for the next twelve to eighteen months, it is important to know if they are committed. Some people have said after the initial meeting, "Uh, this isn't really for me. I'm not interested." That's ok. Allow potential disciples to opt-out of the group on the front end after understanding the expectations spelled out in the Disciple-Making Covenant. Remember, you are looking for people who want to be discipled, people who have a desire to grow and learn. An unwillingness to commit reveals that they are not ready to be in a D-Group. It's the example Jesus set for us.
Here are some elements that your weekly D-Group meetings can include.


Open with prayer (1-3 minutes)

Share Highs/Lows/Walk (10-15 minutes) Have a time of intentional conversation by briefly sharing the highs and lows of the week. You can also share celebrations and praises. Answer this question: "How has your walk with Jesus been this past week?"

Scripture Memorization (5-7 minutes) Quote your Scripture memory verse(s) for the week.

H.E.A.R. Journal / Bible Reading Discussion (20-30 minutes) Study the Word of God together. A great way to do this is to share H.E.A.R. journals from the week. The goal of studying the Bible is to apply the Word of God. Remember, knowledge without application is useless information.

Here are some good application questions to utilize:
  1. What are you hearing from God, and what are you doing about it?
  2. What is God teaching you, and how is it affecting your life?
  3. Is there a promise to claim?
  4. Is there an action or attitude to avoid?
  5. Is there a principle to apply?


Discuss any Supplemental / Additional Resources (10 minutes) Books, articles, movies, videos, studies, etc..

Helping Each Other (10 minutes) Spend a few moments asking questions and keeping each other accountable. All accountability should be saturated with grace, not legalism.
  • areas of need / concerns in your life
  • Who has God put on your heart to evangelize and how is it going?
  • Did you share your faith / have a Bible oriented discussion this week?


Close with prayer (5-10 minutes) Share prayer requests and ask someone to pray over the requests.

Dismiss Leave with clear action steps / information for the next meeting


How do I challenge my D-Group to memorize scripture?
Proverbs 25:11 says, "A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver." How many times has a Scripture come to mind when you needed just the right words in a situation? Jesus promised that the Holy Spirit would bring to remembrance all that He said (John 14:26). Those passages of Scripture we have memorized will be brought to our memory at the right moment - but we must learn them. Group members will memorize Scripture if you hold them accountable through reciting verses to one another at every meeting.


Should I disciple unbelievers?
The preferred method is a gathering of born-again believers seeking to grow in their faith. How can you determine if someone is saved or not? We recommend beginning every group by asking each person to share their testimony with others. Next, ask them to explain the Gospel. A great resource for anyone struggling with belief in Christ is Greg Gilbert's book, What is the Gospel?


What if I don't know the answer to a question?
There is no shame in not knowing all of the answers to every question. Simply confess that you may not have all the answers, but you will find them. Then do so before the next meeting. Ask your pastor or another spiritual leader to help you with the answer. Never give the impression that you have all the answers. It is less important to know answers than it is to know how to seek them. It is better to say, "I am not the smartest man in the world because I know all the answers, but because I know where to find the answers." You many not have total recall when it comes to biblical history, theology, and doctrine, but with time you can locate them!


When do I ask someone to leave the D-Group?
These are some reasons for asking someone to leave the group: they don't possess a teachable spirit, they are not faithful in attending meetings, they are not completing the assigned work an dputting in the kind of effort you require, they are living a lifestyle of blatant and unrepentant sin, etc. Teachability is an indispensable quality for growth. One situation where someone may be asked to leave is if he or she monopolizes the group discussion week after week. It will be obvious they want to demonstrate their superior knowledge of the Word rather than learn from interacting with others.

Additionally, laziness will breed complacency in the group. Missing meetings, refusing to memorize Scripture, failing to log H.E.A.R. journal entries, or sitting idly by during discussion times, lowers the moral of the others in the group. This type of behavior must be addressed immediately. Meet with this individual to inquire about his or her attitude and actions. Remind him or her of the committment made at the outset of the discipleship relationship. Like Jesus' relationship with His disciples, ours is a serious relationship as well; a relationship built upon a mutual commitment, forcing you to confront them about their unfaithfulness.


When do I send out disciples to make disciples?
Always begin with the end in mind. Your group should meet for 12 to 18 months, and they should expect that final date from the very beginning. Some groups develop a closer bond, which results in accelerated growth; others take longer. We do not recommend meeting for longer than 18 months. Some group members will desire to leave the group and begin their own groups. Others, however, will want to remain in the comfort zone of the existing group. Some will not want to start another D-Group because of the sweet fellowship and bonds formed within the current group. Remember, the goal is for the men and women of the group to reproduce their lives into someone else.